WAYS TO FIND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE

Your best life and best version of you is uncovered within, when you learn what really sets your soul on fire, what makes you genuinely smile and what is truly important to you, without any outside influence.

Free yourself from negative thoughts

You must practice positive talk and become consciously aware of what you are saying and thinking inside your head. A great thing that helped me was creating a list of affirmations (positive things about myself) that I would read each morning. This was the best way to start the day on the right foot and good practice of how self-talk should be. When you do this, it helps you also become aware of how you talk about other people.

Yes, there may be people you don’t mesh with or agree with, but learning to let go of those people rather than talk negative to them or about them, is so freeing. Letting go of the negativity from all areas of your life is going to give you the best benefit to be the best you.

Take time for yourself

For the longest time, I did not know myself. I only knew the false thoughts and things I would think in my head rather than truly understand who I was and what I wanted in life. I would consider myself more of an introvert, though I do not like to put myself in one box. You don’t have to either. I also love people, getting to know them and building close friendships. Growing up, I spent a lot of time with myself because I enjoyed that time playing and doing whatever I chose even in my own company. I am personally not someone that needs to be around people 24/7. I like a little mental break.

Try a podcast or a youtube channel, but not just anything. Find a source that helps facilitate your self-growth in an area where you feel you could use some encouragement. For example, if you have body image/self-esteem issues, find a podcast that is focused on this area and dive into it in your free time.

Eat healthy without “dieting”

To really create a healthy lifestyle you must have a new perspective on food. It should not be about eating “healthy” in order to be skinny. It should be about eating healthy to prevent disease, heal current ailments and feel your best from the inside. I came across an anonymous quote that absolutely sums up how I feel, “Don’t hate yourself to skinny, love yourself to healthy.”

Eating well to be skinny is not the point, and to be honest, following some of these diets to be skinny is not actually healthy. Healthy is what is truly important. Health is what will give you the ability to live an active life, live longer, prevent disease, feel happier and the list goes on and on. With that being said, healthy looks different on everyBODY. There is not one size, a certain weight, a certain look that indicates health. Health is all about what is within. Sure, if you eat healthy your body will also reflect it, in your own unique beautiful way.

Implement a daily routine

Days can pass so quickly without realizing what we did or didn’t do. Having a routine can help to incorporate important things you may be missing or set up a less stressful week ahead. I have already talked about a few important things to incorporate into your routine. One of them is making sure there is time for yourself daily. Including a list of affirmations to read for yourself each morning. Having set days that you go to the gym or workout at home. Preparing food is also a great idea. On the weekend prepare a few things to have ready to grab and go for the week.

Don’t be afraid of change to live your best life

I touched on the change in the previous section about travel. Change does not need to be feared. Yes, it can be scary and overwhelming. Feel those emotions, they are not wrong but also find the strength to overcome them. If you allow it, change can bring greatness into your life beyond your imagination. If you are unhappy with your job today, change it. Or, if you want to move to a new city, move. If you are not happy with your current situation it is up to you, and only you, to change it. It serves you no value to complain about it, what that does is just cause you more damage.

I realize that making a change and being comfortable with change does not just happen with a snap of the finger. If you need to, take some time to yourself to really think about what you want to be different. If you are hesitating but do not have any real reason why then my advice is just to dive head first into it. Think about it, but don’t overthink it.

Embrace progress, not perfection

Embrace progress, not perfection in every single area of your life. This is so important for living your free life.  Let go of unrealistic expectations or expectations that are anyone else’s but your own. If you are looking for a “perfect” body you will never be satisfied. Instead, strive for progress that makes you feel better from the inside. Absolutely no one is perfect. So if you strive for that in any area of your life, you are automatically setting yourself up for disappointment. We are our own worst critic and tend to focus in on what we consider to be imperfections, instead of focusing on what we love about ourselves.

Shift your focus and magic happens. If anyone tries to hold you to a perfect standard, then they clearly are not looking in the mirror. Progress is what you should be striving for. We all have room for progress in our lives. Appreciating the progress, or climb to the top, makes the view or accomplishment that much sweeter. Keep your eyes fixed on continually improving and growing yourself, and don’t be distracted by achieving perfection. If you do you will be constantly chasing something unattainable. Progress, on the other hand, is something that you have the ability to proudly achieve on your own.

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5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE IN A RELATIONSHIP

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE IN A RELATIONSHIP

DON’T TAKE RELATIONSHIPS ONLY AS SOLUTIONS

It is obvious that your partner is the most trusted person in your life and you want to share all your troubles with them. However, you must keep in mind that they too are humans who have similar emotions and troubles just like you do. When we start taking our relationships as the solution to all our problems, we are vulnerable to becoming burdens in our partner’s life.

DON’T BE PERSONALLY AFFECTED BY EVERYTHING

As humans, we say many things which we don’t actually mean or sometimes they even come out as something completely different from what we meant. It happens with your partner too. Deep attachments sometimes compel you to react to anything and everything that is said to you. However, you must take time to fully process your partner’s words before reacting to them and must remain composed throughout the process. In short, you mustn’t always take things personally.

DON’T BELITTLE YOURSELF

It’s quite common for people to let their relationships have a negative effect on their self-esteem. But, you should never let this happen. You should be fully aware of who you are and what you are capable of. That’s the key to a perfect relationship.

 DON’T SAY ‘YES’ TO EVERYTHING

It is okay and rather healthy to not agree upon certain things when two people love each other. Your role in a relationship is never to only satisfy your partner’s ego by accepting whatever they say to you. Especially if you are a woman, you are expected to do just that. Never succumb to that and pretend as if you are a person who lacks a strong personality. Remember that he fell in love with a strong woman and if he demands otherwise, rethink the relationship itself.

DON’T ALWAYS WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY

It’s not alright to always wait for the other person to apologize first. Sometimes you have to do it as well. Whenever there is an argument, you must take a step back and reflect upon what it was really for. The two of you must discuss things like adults and only then arrive at a decision. Mutual decisions are very crucial to the foundations of a healthy relationship.

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THE WARNING SIGNS OF CONDUCT DISORDER IN CHILDREN

THE WARNING SIGNS OF CONDUCT DISORDER IN CHILDREN

Conduct disorder in children goes beyond bad behavior. It is a diagnosable mental health condition that is characterized by patterns of violating societal norms and the rights of others.

It's important for kids with conduct disorder to get professional treatment. Recognizing the early warning signs can help you take appropriate action.

SIGNS OF CONDUCT DISORDER

Conduct disorder extends beyond normal teenage rebellion. It involves serious behavior problems that are likely to raise alarm among teachers, parents, peers, and other adults.

In order to qualify for a diagnosis of conduct disorder, children must exhibit at least three symptoms in the past year and at least one symptom in the past six months:

AGGRESSION TOWARD PEOPLE AND ANIMALS

Often bullies, threatens, or intimidates others

Often initiates physical fights

Has used a weapon that could cause serious harm

Property Destruction

Deliberate fire setting

Other destruction of property

DECEPTIVENESS OR THEFT

Breaking or entering a house, car or building

Lying for personal gain

SERIOUS RULE VIOLATION

Staying out at night or being truant before the age of 13 years

Has run away from home overnight at least twice

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Ways to Improve Yourself

Ways to Improve Yourself 

1. Accept yourself as you are

         You count, you are valuable, you deserve, you are unique and precious, know that and give yourself the best chance to lead the life of your dreams. 

2. Never Stop learning

          

          Gain more knowledge and understanding about those things you are passionate and love doing. 

3. Improve your confidence

         Believe! as you've done in the past , you can face whatever life throws at you believe that you can, and you will always find you way. 

4. Be grateful and use you past experiences

        An unfortunate event from the past is now an emergency file to use as an example of how to or not to move forward.

5. Build long-lasting relationships, stay connected

    

       Life is comfortable, enjoyable, and happy when you surround yourself with people that love, appreciate, vale care for you, and accept you as you are. 

6. Follow your dreams and aspirations 

     Dreams are your greatest motivators, showing you a picture of your future, a picture that pulls you into excitement and irresistible desire to prove yourself how amazing you can be. 

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HOW TO FIGHT INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS

HOW TO FIGHT INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS

Have you ever felt like your head is on fire? You can’t stop thinking, you don’t sleep at night. Everywhere you go, those thoughts are still there and they don’t leave. But what can you do to fight them? You probably tried thousand times but here there are some suggestions.

1. Let it be

Stopping your intrusive thoughts don’t work because they only become more distressing. Using self-talk to coach your way through the process is key. ‘Here is the thought — I’m not going to focus on it, I’m going to let it pass.'” Knowing this can help that upsetting thought carry less weight in your mind.

2. Focus on something else

When we are stressed or too calm, those thoughts are triggered. By finding an activity the thoughts often move to the background. Music, movies, a conversation with someone, a sport, hobby, or activity can engage our brain in something else.

3. Self- talk

Analyse them and find the reasons why they’re wrong. For example, you could think a person is about to leave you because they hate you but ask yourself if this is possible and why.

4. Remember, it’s just a thought

What you think is not always true.

5. Meditation

When I feel like I’m thinking too much, I just close my eyese and focus on my breath. I also listen to guided meditations.

6. Find a therapist

Sometimes we can’t fight alone, we need someone else.

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Bullying

Bullying 

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. 

In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:

An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.

Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

There are three types of bullying:

Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:

1. Teasing

2. Name-calling

Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation 

or relationships. Social bullying includes:

1. Leaving someone out on purpose

2. Telling other children not to be friends with someone

Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:

1. Hitting/kicking/pinching

2. Spitting

3. Tripping/pushing 

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How to find the Right Relation ship

How to find the Right Relation ship 

1. Know yourself 

 It is a must to know your deal breakers, your personality quirks and what you may want in someone else in order to find balance.

2. Know what you are looking for 

Grab a piece of paper, and make three columns. Label on column "non-negotiables, "label one "negotiables," and label the other "Don't care." Now, fill them in 

3. Put yourself out there

join dating sites, dating apps, and go to social events around your community. 

4. Let someone pursue you

Let someone nail down a night to see you because they can't stand the idea of letting anymore days go by without it. 

5. Give them a chance 

it is really fair to judge someone based off of one date. you can't learn enough in one date

6.Stop wondering if you are right for them 

So many times we get caught up in the question, "Am i the one for him?" and, the answer is, "who the hell cared?!" The question you should be asking is...... "Is He right for me?"

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7 things A 'Highly Sensitive Person Needs

How can we as highly sensitive people cope with our trait? Here are  7 things we need to take care of our mental health:

1. Time to decompress.

Noisy, busy environments — like a crowded mall during the holidays, a concert or a big party — can wreak havoc on a sensitive person’s highly reactive nervous system. Likewise, packed schedules and high-pressure situations, like a job interview or the first day in a new school, are overstimulating. Can be alone.

2. People who support us.

Sensitive people may cry or become emotional a lot. “Sensitive people can’t help but express what they’re feeling,”

3. A gentle, healthy way of managing conflict.

No matter who you are, fighting with a loved one is miserable. But sensitive people tend to feel extra anxious when conflict arises — and an internal battle takes place. We feel torn between speaking up for what we believe is right and sitting back so we don’t provoke an angry reaction from the other person. Often we subjugate our own needs because we’d rather “go along to get along” than fight.

On the other hand, sensitive people can make great conflict resolvers, because we tend to see the other person’s perspective. We have high levels of empathy and can easily put ourselves in someone else’s shoes.

4. Time to get things done.

Sensitive people like a slower pace of life. We like pondering all our options before making a decision and regularly reflecting on our experiences. We hate busy schedules and rushing from one event to the next. One of the hardest parts of my day during the work week is getting moving in the morning and leaving my apartment on time. Saturday mornings, when I don’t have to work, are for going at my own pace. It’s calming and restorative to know I don’t have to be dressed and ready to go anywhere anytime soon.

5. Healthy meals spaced regularly throughout the day.

When I don’t eat regularly, I get hangry. This is because, according to Aron, extreme hunger can mess up a sensitive person’s mood or concentration. To fend off feelings of crankiness and discombobulation, maintain a steady blood sugar level throughout the day by eating regular healthy meals and snacks.

6. Low lighting.

If possible, turn off the overhead lights in your home or office and substitute a lamp.

7. Beauty and nature.

Like most sensitive people, I’m deeply affected by my surroundings, especially the way they look. Cluttered, chaotic or just plain ugly environments bother me. I feel calm spending time in nature, my city’s favorite neighborhoods or my simply decorated apartment (especially when it’s actually clean and tidy!).

When it comes down to it, the key is to embrace your sensitivity rather than work against it. Sensitive people make incredible leaders, partners and friends. We have high levels of empathy and we’re usually creative and perceptive. Maybe the world could use a little more of what we have.

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What is addiction?

What is addiction?

Addiction is a physical or psychological need to do, take or use something, to the point where it could be harmful to you.

Why does addiction begin?

There are many reasons why addictions begin. In the case of drugs, alcohol and nicotine, these substances affect the way you feel, both physically and mentally. These feelings can be enjoyable and create a powerful urge to use the substances again.

Gambling may result in a similar mental 'high' after a win, followed by a strong urge to try again and re-create that feeling. This can develop into a habit that becomes very hard to stop.

Being addicted to something means that not having it causes withdrawal symptoms or a 'come down'. Because this can be unpleasant, it's easier to carry on having or doing what you crave, and so the cycle continues. Often, an addiction gets out of control because you need more and more to satisfy a craving and achieve the 'high'.

The strain of managing an addiction can seriously damage a person's work performance and relationships. In the case of substance abuse (for example, drugs and alcohol), an addiction can have serious psychological and physical effects.

Some studies suggest that addiction is genetic, but environmental factors, such as being brought up by someone with an addiction, are also thought to increase the risk. An addiction can be a way of blocking out difficult issues. Unemployment and poverty can trigger addiction, along with stress, and emotional or professional pressure.

Symptoms of addiction

People may or may not know they are addicted. The symptoms that indicate you, or someone you know, has an addiction include:

1. repeating something even though it interferes with your life

2. stealing or selling things to continue the addictive behaviour

3. losing interest in other things

4. being angry, violent, moody, or depressed

5. seeing changes in eating habits, sleeping habits, or weight

6. feeling sick or shaky when trying to quit.

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4 Things Needed for Trauma Recovery

4 Things Needed for Trauma Recovery

Recovery from trauma can be a complicated, long, and difficult process.  In truth, a traumatic experience is not always something that a person can get over, but there are ways to heal and work through a traumatic experience.  Trauma recovery is about stabilization, healing, and building back mental and emotional strength that may have been damaged by the trauma.

Here are some of the most important aspects of trauma recovery that I have found are needed to support those who have experienced a trauma:

1. Safety

When your safety is threatened, you have to drop everything and try to achieve a sense of safety again before you can move forward with your life.  This is why is is so important for trauma survivors to feel safe.  This might be accomplished by increasing security at home or other areas, or by avoiding areas that trigger a sense of fear or safety threat. It may also mean building a sense of emotional safety by setting boundaries with others or limiting contact with people who have been abusive.

2. Belief

A major barrier to healing from trauma is when survivors are not believed when they talk about or report their experiences. Leave the evidence questions to the courts, and be supportive of the people you care about. If you have been traumatized, seek support from those who do believe you, and limit your engagement with those who express disbelief or judgement about your trauma. It can be incredibly painful when those who are supposed to care about you do not believe you, but there is support out there from professionals and advocates that can help.

3. Validation

People who have experienced a trauma need to be understood in addition to being believed.  Validating someone’s experience by listening to their story and understanding why the experience has impacted them in the way that is has is key to trauma recovery. Feeling validated that your trauma is understood by others to be real and impactful can help you feel supported when you are trying to recover from a traumatic experience. his doesn’t mean that you need to relay all the times when you have felt those emotions as well, as you don’t want to turn the conversation back around to yourself when you’re trying to be supportive. But it can mean just saying that you understand what is is like to have those feelings, and you want to support their healing throughout their recovery process.

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Tips to Overcome Intrusive Thoughts

Tips to Overcome Intrusive Thoughts

FIRST, WHAT ARE INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS?

Intrusive thoughts are undesirable thoughts, hence the name “intrusive”. They are unwelcome and just appear in your mind out of nowhere, which makes these thoughts appear in our mind against our will.

INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS VS. OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER (OCD):

Intrusive thoughts are often associated or confused with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). While they can be related, there are some differences that distinguish the two.

ACCEPT THE THOUGHTS

Remember, it’s totally okay to have random thoughts. Sometimes you need to remind yourself of this.

KEEP YOURSELF BUSY

If you keep yourself busy and distracted, this will help out with fading away intrusive thoughts. When your mind is preoccupied, it doesn’t have time to be wandering off and thinking about intrusive thoughts.

DON’T WORRY ABOUT ACTING UPON YOUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS

If you ever feel guilty or distressed about your thoughts, then you don’t have to worry about acting upon your thoughts.

Just the simple fact that the thoughts distress you means that you have a conscious and you’re a good person! So, don’t worry, be happy

FACE YOUR FEARS:

Sometimes when you have intrusive thoughts, you may be tempted to shy away from things that might trigger the thoughts or worsen them, but don’t let your thoughts control your life.

On the contrary, face your fears and prove to yourself that you are in control. 

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5 Discipline Strategies for Kids with ADHD

5 Discipline Strategies for Kids with ADHD

Kids with ADHD often require a slightly different approach to discipline. A few simple changes to your parenting strategies could give your child the tools he needs to manage his behaviour more effectively.

Provide Positive Attention

Parenting a child with ADHD can be exhausting. Their never ending supply of energy and desire to talk constantly, can tire even the most patient parent.

Consequently, it can be difficult to find time and energy to play with a hyperactive child. However, providing a child with ADHD positive attentionis a good investment. Positive play time reduces attention-seeking behavior. And it will make your consequences more effective.

Give Effective Instructions

Kids with short attention spans need extra help following directions. Quite often, they don't hear the instructions correctly in the first place. There are several things you can do to make your instructions more effective.

Give one instruction at a time. And ask your child to repeat back to you what he heard to make sure he fully understands.

Praise Your Child's Effort

Catch your child being good and point it out. Praise motivates children with ADHD to behave and frequent feedback is important.

Make your praise specific. Instead of saying, “Nice job,” say, “Great job putting your dish in the sink right when I asked you to.” Praise kids for following directions, playing quietly and sitting still and you'll encourage your child to keep it up.

Use Time-Out When Necessary

Time-out can be a good way to help kids with ADHD calm their bodies and their brains. Time-out doesn’t need to be a harsh punishment. Instead, it can be a great life skill that can be useful in many situations.

Work With Your Child's Teacher

When parents work together with a child's teacher, it increases the chances that a child will be successful in school. Some children need modifications to their school work, such as being allowed extra time on tests, to be successful.

Behavior modifications may be necessary as well. Forcing a child with ADHD to stay in for recess may worsen behavior problems. So it's important to work together to create a behavior management plan that will support your child's efforts to manage his symptoms.

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Build Your Relation Healthy Happy And Strong

Build Your Relation Healthy Happy And Strong

1. Don’t argue over money:- It’s practically a guaranteed relationship killer.  If you haven’t yet had a conversation about how money is earned, spent, saved, and shared, do it now.  Try to get an understanding of how each of you sees your financial life, and where the differences are.  Then address them.

2. Share your thought:- Your hopes.  Your fears.  Your passions.  Let your partner know who you really are.  Set aside sometime each day just to talk about the things that are important to each of you, as individuals. This is one of the most crucial things to do to make your relationship stronger.

3. Be friendly:- Treat your partner the way you’d treat a good and trusted friend: with respect, consideration, and kindness. It will go a long way in fostering a strong relationship.

4. Show affection daily:- Sex is one thing.  Holding hands, a hug, a squeeze on the arm – all create connection and trust.  If you’re not getting as much attention as you want, let it be known.

5. Be supportive:-Nothing kills a buzz like a negative or absent response to something you’re enthusiastic about.

6. Make your partner a priority:- That is why you’re in this relationship in the first place.

This is how to keep a relationship strong and happy. Following these tips will get you closer to your spouse and improve the quality of your relationship. Relationships, against what is commonly believed, are not as difficult to maintain as they are made out to be. Inculcating some habits and behaviours in your day to day life is sufficient to keep your relationship strong, healthy and happy.

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4 SIGNS YOU SHOULD SEE A THERAPIST

4 SIGNS YOU SHOULD SEE A THERAPIST

We all experience periods of feeling sad, stressed out, anxious or depressed, but these are usually short lived. If you’re experiencing any of the signs below, it’s probably time to seek professional help.

You experienced a trauma or a loss and can’t stop thinking about it.

Coping with grief can take time. But if you find that thoughts about your experience are regularly interfering with your life it might be time to see a therapist.

Your friends or family have told you that they’re worried about you.

Sometimes the very nature of how you’re feeling makes it hard to recognize the negative impact it’s having on your life. The people around you are often better able to recognize when you’re struggling with an emotional problem than you are

Has your irritability has begun putting a strain on your relationships? Or if you find that you’re losing relationships because you’re isolating yourself, these are also signs that the problem is more serious.

You’re using substances to cope with how you feel.

Having a drink to relax or de-stress from time to time isn’t a problem. But if your substance abuse is getting more frequent or intense, this might be a sign that you’re using it to cope with difficult emotions that you don’t want to feel.

You’re thinking about death a lot or you’re thinking about hurting yourself.

When depression and anxiety get severe, it can sometimes feel hopeless. But it’s important to know that treatment can help you feel better.

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How to heal from a relationship injury?

How to heal from a relationship injury?

Relationship injuries can be something different for each of us. For some it is a sense of being abandoned in a difficult moment; or, it could be a feeling of being belittled, devalued by a partner, or even scared of a partner who you wished to see as your safe harbour.

Afterwards, spouses may describe the moment of a relationship injury as if an era ended: they told themselves not to trust their partners ever again, not to depend on them, not to care about them. The result is often a sense of disconnection, which partners try to remedy with nice gestures. But the real way to heal the emotional disconnection that comes through relationship injury is to face it, explore it with all the empathy and genuine interest you can muster, so you can heal it together.

                                            

Willingness to listen with an open heart

The first step is to ask and listen with a willingness to accept what your partner has to say about the event that created the emotional injury. To start the conversation, choose a time when both of you can be undisturbed. It can start with a question like this: “Can you tell me what was so important to you about that event? I want to understand. It keeps popping up in our conversations, and I never really understood what this situation meant to you?”

Show that you get your partner's hurt

When your partner is talking, what matters is that you show them that you are getting their pain. If you love each other, this comes naturally: it hurts to see your partner hurting because of what you did. Only when you realise how your action hurt your partner,  can they let go of the pain and start feeling safe with you again.

This will lead your partner towards opening up even more, so they can entrust to you all the depth of their grief, pain or loneliness they experienced in the moment of injury. Maybe this is the time when they will say: “I decided never to trust you again because it hurt so much to be betrayed.” Or: “I thought I will never want to depend on you again, anything  to not go through this awful feeling of being left all by myself.”

The more you can show your partner that their pain has an impact on you and that you understand where they are coming from, the more restorative this conversation will be for both of you. Depending on the nature of the injury, your partner may need to go through it with you quite a few times.

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Loneliness and isolation

Loneliness and isolation

There are times in everyone’s life when we feel lonely or isolated. It can be for straightforward reasons, like being away from home or having problems with friends and family.

You can also feel emotionally cut off from those around you, or feeling alone because of what’s going on in your head that you’re not sharing with your friends or family.

Times you can experience loneliness

Having low self-esteem can make us feel lonely, because we feel we’re not as good as others.

After a relationship break-up it can be difficult to adjust to life as a single person again. Spending more time on your own can feel isolating.

Common causes of loneliness:

·         Having a hard time with bullying or intimidation at school, college or work

·         Finding it hard to talk to others because of shyness or social anxiety

·         Living away from home for the first time

·         Friends moving away for work or college

Some tips for coping with loneliness:

Get busy

Boost your self-esteem

Explore your interests

Enjoy your own company

Try not to worry

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Empathy Teaching Kids To Value Others

Empathy Teaching Kids To Value Others

What Is Empathy?

Empathy Not only is it the ability to recognize how someone feels, but it also values and respects the feelings of another person. It means treating others with kindness, dignity, and understanding.

Kids Need To See Adults Show Empathy

While some children are gifted with naturally kind hearts, in most cases kids need to see empathy modelled by the adults around them. It begins with the way parents relate to their children. Parents who show an interest in the things that matter to their kids and respond to emotions in a positive and caring way are teaching the skill of empathy.

Meet Emotional Needs

When children have their emotional needs met, two things happen. They learn how to meet the emotional needs of others and they are anchored in what they are receiving, meaning that they are secure enough to give to others when the need arises but first they need to receive. An empty jug cannot fill a cup.

Develop Their Inner Moral Compass

Teaching your kids the difference between right and wrong from a young age gives them a strong internal moral compass that will direct them to make good choices. In situations that require a decision, help them to see how our choices and behaviour affect others.

Empathetic Kids: Givers Not Takers

By raising your kids to understand and practice empathy, you’re giving them the gift of giving. In a world where great emphasis is placed on looking out for your own interests, people who are givers are all too rare. But they are the ones who enjoy the greatest satisfaction from life, live the most meaningful lives, and enjoy more rewarding relationships. Teaching your kids empathy is a worthwhile investment for their own futures and for the world they will inhabit.

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HOMEWORK HELP: 4 TIPS FOR PARENTS ON HOW TO MAKE HOMEWORK FUN

HOMEWORK HELP: 4 TIPS FOR PARENTS ON HOW TO MAKE HOMEWORK FUN

Think out of the box. If you are tutoring your child on a particular topic or assignment, it would be best if you use various approaches so he or she won’t be bored. You can present the discussion differently, in a way that he or she will enjoy. Out of the box would mean that you are willing to use methods outside of the typical ones just for your child to pay attention to what are you teaching.

Be more engaging. Kids love activities that are interactive. If you provide homework help, make sure that your focus is one hundred percent on the topic so your child will be more attentive. Remember, if your child sees that you are not really into what you are doing, he or she will also think of other things. When your child is distracted, it will be more difficult for him or her to absorb any information or learn.

Help your kids how to do homework. you are extremely busy for all day, but you should take some time and join your children while they are making their lessons at home. You will be able to see what they work in school at the current time, and they may ask you how to do homework. Give them good advice how they need to make this or that. We are not going to suggest telling them how to cheat on homework, but you can teach them how to focus on homework, and with other our tips, your kids will have their homework fun!

Use props. Some kids are “visual learners,” meaning that they learn faster by reading, seeing images, or objects. Visual learners understand and remember information by sight. When having a conversation with your child about a certain topic, show him or her materials that he or she can relate to the discussion at hand. During homework help sessions, parents could use props such as toys and other materials for each respective subject.

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Internet Addiction Disorder

Internet Addiction Disorder 

Internet addiction disorder (IAD), also known as problematic Internet use or pathological Internet use, is excessive Internet use that interferes with daily life. An Internet addiction is typically characterized by a level of Internet use that impairs relationships; brings about family, work, or interpersonal difficulties; and impacts daily function in a negative way.

A  Counselor or other mental health professional can often help those seeking treatment address and resolve this concern. 

IDENTIFYING INTERNET ADDICTION

A person who is experiencing Internet addiction may:

Exhibit a preoccupation with the Internet, even when not using it

Use the Internet more and more frequently

Be unable to stop or cut back on Internet use (in spite of attempts to do so)

Feel moody, irritable, low, or restless as a result of attempts to cut back on Internet use

Use the Internet to regulate mood or gain relief from the negative effects of problems

Risk losing employment, romantic relationships, friendships, or academic standing in order to spend more time

Symptoms of the internet Addiction.

Depression

Dishonesty

Inability to Prioritize or Keep Schedules

Isolation

No Sense of Time

Defensiveness

Avoidance of Work

Agitation

Physical Symptoms of Internet Addiction Disorder.

Backache

Carpal Tunnel Syndrome

Headaches

Insomnia

Poor Nutrition (failing to eat or eating in excessively to avoid being away from the computer)

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